28 Days, 28 Tips: Day 14

February 14, 2017 Leave your thoughts

February is National Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month.
In order to shine light on dating abuse, I’m posting 28 Tips for 28 Days. Stop by each day this month and discover stats that may shock you. Tips that can help you. Links that can save a life.
Knowledge and understanding are our best weapons in fighting what has become a silent epidemic among teens!

Day 14, Tip 14:

Valentine’s Day. Is there a day more despised and dreaded, I wonder? Yes, I know it’s a great excuse for dinner out and who doesn’t love another reason to eat chocolate?  Believe me, I’m all for love and romance. So why shouldn’t we have a holiday dedicated to that idea, you ask? 

Well, since you asked…

The problem is that Valentine’s Day takes the IDEA of relationships and puts it up on a pedestal. So if you don’t have a Valentine…if you’re single…if you’re alone…then you feel like there’s something wrong with you.

Something unworthy.

I still remember how in high school you could buy a flower to be delivered to someone special during the day. It was torture for me. I had no boyfriend. I had no flowers. So what was the message I took from that?

I must not be special.

I know I wasn’t the only one who felt like that and I know that there are other teens, like me, who will feel sad today for what they don’t have.

We all want romance and love, sure.

The danger is in wanting it so much…feeling like our value is wrapped up in whether we have a relationship…that we settle for any relationship, any partner.

Even the wrong partner.

I wish I had known then what I know now. That by loving yourself, you have a partner for life.

And, that there is a wonderful person out there, even if you haven’t yet met him in high school.

(I’ve been married almost 29 years to a guy who loves me for exactly who I am.)

So, in honor of Valentine’s Day AND healthy relationships, here’s a little music video. And may this be a happy day for you and all the people in your life! <3 


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